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How Our Lady of the Rosary Helped Me Meet My Husband

Have you ever NOT noticed a rainbow until someone else pointed it out to you?

Have you ever had to pull a child away from danger –

maybe a car driving quickly in a parking lot, for example?

This is how I imagine one way Our Blessed Mother works in our lives. Our Heavenly Mother often has to point out what is already there – either a gift from God or danger that would lead us away from her Son.

Our Blessed Mother helps us see what God has ready for us

The way my husband Matt and I went on our first date is a much more specific example of how I believe Our Lady of the Rosary helps us.

In a way, he was the rainbow in the sky I needed pointed out to me.

Our Mama Mary, when we faithfully pray the Rosary and grant her a little trust (or a lot of it) points out to us the beauty that God has put in our lives. She also points out the danger that exists and is near us – especially those that would endanger our soul.

God heard my prayer for a husband long before I started praying the Rosary on a regular basis

Matt and I went on our first date in 2004.

However, the suggestion that I meet Matt came about two years before that.

Let me explain.

Around the year 2002, I bumped into an old high school friend. As we caught up, she expressed her opinion that I should “meet Matt”. Matt was her friend Maria’s brother. The only thing I gleaned that I had in common with this guy was that we were both single.

Based on that information, I made no effort to explore this idea and showed no interest in this idea.

Months later, I saw Karen again. This time Karen knew we were going to be together, so she brought a picture of Matt to show me.

Again, I expressed no interest really. I did not hear anything about this guy that made me think, “oh yes, we have lots in common, we should totally meet”.

Again, I did something like smiled, nodded and went along my way.

Something changed when I started praying the Rosary

In 2003, I started praying the Rosary with at least 3 friends once a week.

We would gather at my apartment on Thursday evenings. We often invited others to join us, and there were weeks where 5 to seven of us sat around a living room sharing intentions and praying the Rosary together.

Loneliness, Despair and Infertility inspired a Rosary group

There were 4 women that were there praying the Rosary consistently: Nancy, Siobhan, Kelly and myself.

When we began, Nancy and I were lonely and broken-hearted.

Siobhan was pregnant, but the father of the baby and her were on, to say the least, on a very rocky road.

Kelly was experiencing infertility.

These women became my closest friends. We did other things together besides meet up for Rosary once a week.

Nancy, Siobhan and Kelly were fans of a show called “Sex in the City”. I never watched it prior to meeting them and honestly, felt no desire to watch it. The title of the show didn’t exactly sit well with me.

HOWEVER, sometime in the beginning of 2004, Kelly decided she was going to have a “Sex in the City party”. My guess is the show was in it’s last season, so she wanted to gather friends to watch the last episode.

I agreed to go to this party because, well, I had no other plans and my friends were going to be there.

It was at this party that I met Maria.

Maria, Karen’s friend – who was also friends with Nancy and Kelly.

I quickly realized this was the Maria I had heard about many times and had yet to meet.

And this was the Maria who happened to have a single brother named Matt – who Karen had mentioned to me more than once.

I quickly realized why my mutual friends often spoke so highly of Maria. I immediately liked her and wanted to be her friend.

After we had talked a while, I said to Maria . . . “tell me about your brother our mutual friend Karen has told me about” . . .

Maria’s response:

“Oh I was hoping you’d ask!”

Maria left that party with a picture of me and my phone number. I figured, if his sister was that nice, he was probably a guy I’d like to meet.

I left the party not minding if this Matt eventually called me . . . but also with no high hopes or eager expectations.

Pictured above: Maria (Matt’s sister) is in the red shirt. Siobhan is next to her and Nancy is wearing the striped white and gray shirt.

At the end of May, Siobhan gave birth to a beautiful baby girl.

In early June, when Siobhan brought her daughter home to her new apartment, Nancy and I went to visit Mama and baby.

While we were visiting, my cell phone rang. I looked at the number calling and said something like,

“I don’t recognize that number. That might be Maria’s brother Matt. I’ll just let it ring and call him back . . “

I think I was going to say later but before I was done speaking, Nancy and Siobhan shouted in unison:

ANSWER IT!!!!!!!!!!!

As a reaction, I answered it.

Sure enough, it was Matt.

We talked a little and decided that we would go out together on the evening of June 17th. That was the last day of school so I thought it would be a good night to go out – I wouldn’t have to worry about grading or lesson planning at that point.

At a much later date, Matt shared with me how that day he called me, he had held his phone and my number in his hand for what felt like hours. It may have actually been hours.

Matt doesn’t like calling people. He even isn’t to fond of calling to order a pizza.

This phone call was a big deal for him to make.

I only recently shared with him what had happened on my end. I figured if I didn’t answer, he would leave a message and I would just call him back. In my mind – no big deal.

When I shared this story with him, Matt said that he really isn’t sure he would have left a message. In fact, he probably would not have left a message.

Matt once again reminded me how

he held his phone and my number and stared at it for a very, very long time.

I was reminded of how big a deal making this phone call was to him.

Then it dawned on me.

The two women who shouted ANSWER IT, were my prayer partners for the past 9 months.

It was those two who were listening to my intention week after week – please Lord let me meet a man I can fall in love with and marry.

It was with those two women who prayed the Rosary with me every week.

Not only was I walking with Our Lady, they also had been walking with her.

I feel like the three of them teamed up in that moment.

ANSWER IT was a direct message from God. That message was shared in stereo.

God had Matt chosen for me, but boy, did I need a whole lot of help to see that answered prayer and gift from above.

Our Blessed Mother Helped Me Open My Heart More to God’s Love

When my friend Karen suggested that I should meet Matt, I totally disregarded the suggestion.

Then, I started praying the Rosary with a group of friends.

That Rosary group led me to meet MARIA (ironic) and I let down my guard. I passed along my phone number.

But the help I needed didn’t end there. When Matt called me, I was not going to answer the phone.

I only answered it because two women, who had prayed the Rosary with me for months, were prompted to shout at the same time, “ANSWER IT”.

It’s actually that memory that made me stop and think about how every time I prayed the Rosary with these girls that year, my number one intention was all about my lonely, sad heart that longed for the vocation of marriage.

Maybe some of us need more help to see God’s gifts right in front of us. The fact that I might be one of those people does not surprise me at all.

I mean, it took me like 20 years to put all the pieces of this story together. Yeah, I might need Our Blessed Mother’s help . . . as well as some faithful friends.

And here we are, twenty years later.

Our first date was on June 17th 2004.

Our first child was born on June 17th years later.

God had it planned, I’m certainly grateful Our Heavenly Mother helped me see it.

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My husband and I were in counseling our first year of marriage.

Don’t worry, our 15 year anniversary is less than 6 months away.

But for us, marriage hasn’t been easy.

That doesn’t mean it hasn’t been an incredible blessing. We just came to the Sacrament with a ton of baggage.

In fact, our wedding song was “God Blessed the Broken Road”.

But, why go to Saint Joseph for marriage help?

Saint Joseph is often known as “Saint Joseph the Worker”.

Men feel strongly about their role as a provider. Even men who’s wives work full-time and even men who’s wives make more money than they do. Work is something most men use to describe their identity.

Saint Joseph is the patron saint of workers.

When Matt and I were first married, Matt worked as a retail manager.  It was not what he went to school for; but he took the job because he wanted to be a good provider.  I could see how unhappy and stressful his job made him.  His job sent him into a depression, and his work was so stressful, he also went into the hospital.  He spent about a week in the ICU.  We had only been married about a year.  “In sickness . . .” came a lot quicker than I had ever imagined.  

During our counseling sessions, we spoke about a lot of things that we were struggling with and our counselor made some suggestions to help us work through them.

But he (our therapist was a man) must have started to see and hear a pattern. Matt’s job and work must have been coming up a lot. The therapist finally suggested that Matt look for a different job. It was clear that this was a huge stressor – both on Matt and on our marriage.

One thing I have learned in the past 15 years – through my own relationship and watching the marriages of friends – is the work and the job of a husband is so important and influential in his life.

If a husband is unhappy at his job or with his career, that will negatively impact his home life.

I’ve seen it. It can lead to marriages ending completely.

If you’re marriage is stressed, I suggest you and your spouse take a look at your husband’s professional life. My gut feeling and experience tells me, it’s more important for a man to be happy at his job than it is for a woman.

I don’t have any degrees that can back up that last statement. But sometimes, our gut can tell us something a lifelong education can not.

I didn’t realize it at first, but what led him to take the job was the desire to be a good provider for me and our future children. Once I realized how much he disliked his work and we both became aware that it was affecting his physical and mental health, I suggested a change.

Matt’s reaction was not uncommon or odd… he simply said, “we can’t afford it.”

But let me play the devil’s advocate here: is it worth losing your marriage or potential happiness in family life over a job?

Now our situation was unique in quite a few ways.

We didn’t have children and I did have a job

I wasn’t suggesting he quit his job without another one lined up. Matt felt that he could get another job, it would just pay significantly less than what he was making at the time.

But what I – actually what Matt and I both believe, is that what I did next was what saved him and us.

I prayed a novena to Saint Joseph.

Now why do I think this prayer actually helped us?

I’d love to share that story with you!

I prayed this novena prayer with this intention:

I asked Saint Joseph to pray with me for Matt… that he would have a job he enjoyed doing and felt that he made a difference doing it.

And then, all of a sudden . . .

the school I taught in needed an IT guy.

I gave Matt’s resume to the President of the School. The President looked at it and looked at me and said… he’s way over qualified.

I explained how my husband desired to work in this field… and he’s been out of it for years. This would help him get back into the tech world and not look or be behind.

But…Matt didn’t just have to impress the school President.

Whoever got the job was going to have to work with the nun who ran the computer lab.
She was an SSJ.
That is, a Sister of Saint Joseph.
And not everyone got along swimmingly with her.

This nun and I did get along well. But it’s funny, that wasn’t the case for many of the teachers in the school.

She was, how do I describe this . . .”old school”?

Rigid, didn’t have a bubbly personality and honestly, I don’t know.

What I did know was that I could sign up to bring my 5 classes of freshmen to her computer lab almost any time because other teachers were not flocking to go there.

I also knew that in the 4 years I worked at the school, there had been at least two IT/computer support people who had worked there and left the job, and for the year before Matt applied, we only had Sister as our tech “go-to” person.

So Matt has his interview where he talked to all the school President and the Tech Coordinator of the Office of Catholic Education – basically all the people in the school district that are in charge of hiring IT professionals.

And… he met Sister.
And Sister LOVED Matt.

She loved him the day she met him.
She loved him every day he worked with her.
And when he left for another job, well that really made her sad… because honestly, she loved him.

That job got Matt back in the industry and gave him the experience and confidence he needed to move on and up in the field.

 I am so grateful for Saint Joseph’s intercession.

 And as an added wink and a smile, Saint Joseph passed on to Matt his love of woodworking.  

Woodworking has become Matt’s favorite hobby!

My husband still works in the IT field. He is supporting our family with a job he loves. And our oldest son’s middle name is Joseph.
Saint Joseph, pray for us!

How can Saint Joseph help a marriage if the problem is not stemming from employment?

One of Saint Joseph’s titles is the Pillar of Family Life. He wants to pray for you, take him up on the offer.

So, even if you’re marriage is on the rocks because of situations that are not at all work related, I strongly suggest praying this novena!

One of Saint Joseph’s titles is the Pillar of Family Life. He wants to pray for you, take him up on the offer.

Saint Joseph’s titles include many that reflect how much he is a great intercessor for marriage.

Saint Joseph’s titles, in addition to “the Worker” and “Pillar of Families” also include:

Mirror of Patience

Glory of Home Life

and

Terror of Demons.

Marriage requires a ton of patience. The mood of our home life is a reflection of the state or our marriage.

And friends, we all have demons we are battling.

Why not call in for back up?

Go to Joseph. He will help.

Want to read more about Saints and Marriage? Check out Ten Years of Marriage and the Saints that Helped Us Get Here

Want to read more about Saint Joseph? Read 5 Ways Saint Joseph Can Help You Live a Better Life

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