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Apr 6, 2016
Adoption· Catholic Influencers· Faith· Life· Resources

Dear Beautiful Woman Considering an Abortion

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“Diana” was 17 and in high school.  She thought she may have been pregnant, but just to make absolutely sure, she went to Planned Parenthood to find out.  She felt like the walls were closing in on her.  She sat in the examination room and heard the words she did not want to hear: “Yes, you are pregnant”. “Diana” wanted to cry.  The look on her face said exactly that.  The nurse said, “you know, you can have an abortion.”  “Diana” thought immediately, “well that would solve my problem”.onthefence.jpeg

Just last year I found out there are scores of crisis pregnancy centers within driving distance of my home.  Until then, I’m not sure I ever heard of a “crisis pregnancy center“.  If I did – I had no idea what they did or why someone would go there.  I had no idea HOW MUCH HELP is out there.

I was 39 years old when I started to realize the abundant numbers of organizations that have the resources – financial, emotional and anything else a pregnant woman needs.

Then I thought, if I don’t know places like these exist – then many women don’t know they exist.

I don’t know YOUR situation.  I have not walked a mile or even a city block in your shoes. But I do know there is help – and I want to let you know that

there are people out there that will:

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help you parent,

help you think about and consider an open adoption plan

 

help you out of an abusive relationship

give you help anonymously

help you finish school

help you get a job

help you with an addiction

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If you are pregnant, and your parents want you to have an abortion . . .

Voice your opinion to someone you can trust.  A guidance counselor might be a good start. Calling one of these organizations and tell them the situation you are facing.  Most likely, if you give your parents time, they will be happy you were extremely vocal.  BUT, they need time.

That is the tricky part.  They need time to feel every emotion – anger, sadness, fear – so in the mean time, make a phone call.  Project Cuddle allows you to be anonymous and is national.  Guiding Star is a home in the Philadelphia area that provides so much support it blows me away. This organization will help you get on your feet – without any government assistance.  Absolutely amazing.  Here is another list of resources: Pro-Life Union.whattodo.jpeg

Call these organizations and “buy time”.  Your parents will eventually come around.  Don’t give up praying.  Don’t give up hoping. And remember – it does matter that you are the one that is pregnant.  Not your mom, or your dad, or your guardian.

But . . . you are right.  I don’t know what YOU are going through.  Perhaps you are pregnant, and your parents don’t know – and you want to keep it that way . . .

Again, call Project Cuddle.  They offer anonymous help.  You don’t have to tell them your name.

Remember Diana from the beginning of the article?  She didn’t want to tell her parents either.  She was scared.  She didn’t want to disappoint them.  She didn’t want them to become so angry they became violent.  She didn’t want them to hate her boyfriend.

Since I don’t know what thoughts, fears and feelings you have going on – the best advice I can give you is to call one of these numbers and talk it out.

PHONE NUMBERS TO CALL

More options

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The people answering these phones have helped so many girls in situations like yours – and in situations that are completely unlike yours.  I would say call.  You can always hang up.

Maybe you are way beyond “what your parents think” years.  Maybe your boyfriend says he’s not ready.

And you love him.  And you don’t want to break up.model2.jpg

I know I’m a total stranger here – but I can tell you, the abortion is not going to strengthen the relationship.  I have a feeling many women can vouch for that statement.  I hope those women comment under this article.  I’m asking you to trust me on this one.  You standing your ground on this issue will only empower you.  It will not make or break your relationship. You can do this.

Maybe you’re not with the father anymore . . .

Maybe the father is married . . .

Maybe you were raped (and that is not fair or right at all) It’s not fair. It’s not fair to you.  It’s not fair to the baby.

Maybe I didn’t say any circumstance that you can relate too.

All I can do is ask you to call some numbers and ask for what other options are out there if you choose not to have an abortion.  Many of these crisis pregnancy centers stay open because everyone who works there is a volunteer.  They are not getting paid.  The same can not be said by those working at planned parenthood – or any other clinic or hospital that provides abortions.

I beg you to seek life for your child.  Consider parenting. Consider an adoption plan.prego.jpg

The best thing about an adoption plan – is that’s what it is – a plan.  Plans can change. An adoption plan does not become a permanent decision until after the baby is born and you sign the papers.  That gives you more time to think about it.

Abortions are not as flexible.  When it’s done, the baby is gone.  The memory will not disappear.

Don’t worry that your baby might be sick.*  Don’t worry what anyone else will say or think. Don’t worry that your life will change drastically.

 

You are a strong, beautiful woman.

Your baby – whether you are two days pregnant, two months or twenty weeks – is beautiful.

Just like you.

Stay strong. Stay brave.

May the Lord give you what you desire the most.

Love, hugs and prayers,

Amy

p.s.”Diana” didn’t have the abortion.

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*If your baby is sick (if your doctor is recommending “interrupting” the pregnancy, or suggesting termination) there are organizations that can provide you loving help.  Check out Be Not Afraid and Lily’s Gift)

Need help until the baby is 3 years old?  Not sure what to do?  Call this Woman’s Center

If you are considering adoption – that is very brave!  I have another post for you! From My Heart: The 10 things I want all women considering adoption to hear . . .




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  1. Lis says

    April 6, 2016 at 8:31 pm

    This is such a great resource for women seeking out their options. Great post, Amy!

    • Amy says

      April 6, 2016 at 8:56 pm

      Thank you Lis! I hope it brings some relief and help to women going through a stressful time!

      • Mary J Salinas says

        September 30, 2016 at 5:19 pm

        Thank you Amy for sharing with me all of the resources that are available. In my day, I didn’t know about any of them. It was taboo, and no one spoke about the many options a young lady has! I wish I had had my baby to give up for adoption. I feel so sad that I didn’t have the courage to say ‘NO’ to those who encouraged me to out of fear of being physically abused. I have come to terms with all that has happened in my life; however, if any young lady is considering having an abortion, I pray that they seek the guidance from any of the wonderful people who assist in these programs!

        • Amy says

          September 30, 2016 at 7:02 pm

          Thank you Mary!! Your words may help someone – it is good to share your story!

  2. Alicia says

    April 7, 2016 at 7:22 am

    A long time ago, a friend of mine had an abortion and to this very day she mourns her decision. When the time was right she thought she would have many more children but due to health issues that occurred she could only have one and she wonders if she had not made that awful choice would this have happened. No matter what is said – the living with that decision never, ever goes away and you are never at peace with it. I am so glad you listed all these great resources to show there is so much more than such a heartbreaking final decision.

  3. Wendy Stanton says

    April 7, 2016 at 9:28 am

    Thank you Amy! There are so many beautiful stories like these. They help to bring hope and joy to women who are struggling and don’t know where to turn. Keep spreading the good news that there are many people who want to help. God bless you!

    • Amy says

      April 7, 2016 at 9:36 am

      Thank you for all the help you give women and their babies! God Bless you too!

  4. Amy says

    April 8, 2016 at 3:10 pm

    I absolutely love this post! Abortion-minded women need all the hope, compassion and help that is available. We, the pro-life community, need to continue stepping up and being a beacon of light to women and girls in crisis pregnancies.
    Amy, I feel that in this article, your approach is charitable and loving, which is exactly what all women need.

    • Amy says

      April 8, 2016 at 3:15 pm

      <3 Love all of your comment Amy! Amen! Let's get the word out and help those who need it!

  5. DeAnna says

    April 8, 2016 at 4:24 pm

    This is a fantastic article!!! My favorite part is where you said “Your parents will come around.” I’ve seen it happen so many times, even with my own pregnancy with my first child. I was 19, my mom was upset but okay my dad wasnt. He didn’t want to even talk to me, but guess who 5 years down the road is his pride and joy- you guessed it, his grandson. Prayer and faith does so much in situation like this!!!

    • Amy says

      April 8, 2016 at 4:37 pm

      Thank you so much for commenting Diana! It’s so important that women hear how others have been in their shoes!

  6. Marci Smith says

    April 8, 2016 at 6:58 pm

    Though I don’t necessarily believe in judging others for their personal decisions, I definitely agree that there is not enough information about crisis centers. I didn’t find out about them until my first pregnancy

  7. Sara says

    January 13, 2017 at 6:28 pm

    Wow! That was moving! I can tell how much you care. Amazing! 💞

    • Amy says

      January 14, 2017 at 1:24 pm

      Thank you Sara – I really hope it reaches someone who needs it!

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