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Apr 11, 2016
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Mocha, Mercy and Mondays: Forgiving all injuries

They killed her entire family . . . with machetes.  And she forgave them.  Yet, I have a difficult time forgiving someone because they “hurt my feelings” on more than one occasion.  And it’s not just me.  I hear it all the time.  “I know I should forgive, BUT THIS IS DIFFERENT.”

And we truly believe we have a right to hold a grudge.  That this certain circumstance, whatever it may be, is different. windowlook.jpeg

If you have never heard of Immaculee Ilibagiza, I need to tell you about her.  Immaculee hid in a bathroom with seven other girls for three months during the Rwandan genocide. Unlike almost one million Rwandans, she survived the genocide that took place in the early 1990’s. When she finally left the cramped, terrifying bathroom and was able to stop hiding, she did what anyone would have done.  She searched for her family.

I can’t imagine for one second the heartache she experienced on that search.  To find that her family members were brutally killed.  I just can not imagine.

Immaculee forgave the killers that took her father, mother and siblings lives.  The killers that she had to hide from in a space no bigger than a coat closet – with seven other women.  For three months she listened to people being brutally murdered just on the other side of the wall that she was squished up against.

How does anyone recover from such a horrible, traumatic, tragic experience.

I think Immaculee would tell you – by faith and forgiveness.forgivecross

As soon as I read the Spiritual Work of Mercy: Forgive All Injuries, I immediately thought of Immaculee.  A modern woman and the perfect example of how it is possible to forgive the most hateful, evil acts any human could perform.

It is known to us as Christians that we are called to forgive.

We know Jesus prayed, as He hung on the cross, “Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do.”

We can find the direction to forgive in many books of the Bible. From the Gospels to the Epistles, forgiving is stressed as extremely important.

Matthew 18:21-22

Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, “Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother when he sins against me? Up to seven times?”

Jesus answered, “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times.”

And again . . .

Colossians 3:13-14

Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.

It can be so hard though!  Ask me to feed the hungry – done.  Easy peesy.  Ask me to forgive someone who hurt me – ugh.  Not so easy.  And then to add “put on love” after the forgiveness.  Not a simple task – not for me anyway!crossangel2.jpg

As I arrived at this point in my writing, I googled “tips to forgive others”.  The first article that came up on that search was written by the late Dr. Wayne Dyer.  Wayne Dyer was the man that convinced Immaculee to tell her story by writing a book – and the man who published her book.

There are no coincidences!

Here is a link to that article: Dr. Wayne Dyer’s advice on forgiving someone

The truth about forgiveness is that it is not just a gift for the receiver.  Forgiveness allows us to be free from resentment and more open to love and compassion.

I know Immaculee credits her ability to forgive the people who took her family’s lives to prayer, particularly the Rosary.  For those situations where we find it more difficult to forgive, we absolutely must turn to God in prayer.  I can’t help but think of the Prayer of St. Francis.  This is such a beautiful prayer.  The words remind us how we should act and think in all circumstances.  Let us pray:rainbowprayer.jpg

Lord, make me an instrument of your peace,
Where there is hatred, let me sow love;
where there is injury, pardon;
where there is doubt, faith;
where there is despair, hope;
where there is darkness, light;
where there is sadness, joy;

O Divine Master, grant that I may not so much seek to be consoled as to console;
to be understood as to understand;
to be loved as to love.

For it is in giving that we receive;
it is in pardoning that we are pardoned;

and it is in dying that we are born to eternal life.

Amen.

I strongly recommend purchasing and reading Immaculee’s account of her experience during the genocide and her journey afterwards.  The following are affiliate links to her books: 

Left to Tell: Discovering God Amidst the Rwandan Holocaust

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Led By Faith: Rising from the Ashes of the Rwandan Genocide

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Have you read Immaculee’s story?

 

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  1. Alicia says

    April 12, 2016 at 9:06 am

    It is the hardest thing to do, there are three that did injury in my life and I do try to forgive them and then something will come to mind and the past will replay and it is there all over again. Although when it starts to play I mentally say – STOP and throw the image out and then send the person love and God Bless. One of the persons is a relation and refuses to speak to my husband and I ever again (so they say) and we have no idea what we have done so that makes it hard to let go as one thinks if you can only talk to them you can settle it – but sometimes you have to not have that conversation in your head day in and day out but stop ourselves and place it firmly in God’s hands. Thank you for the links and reminders – they do help a lot.

    • Amy says

      April 12, 2016 at 9:18 am

      I totally hear you! It can be so hard, especially when hurt feelings resurface! Sending that person love and a God Bless is a great idea!

  2. Caroline @ In Due Time says

    April 13, 2016 at 8:45 pm

    Wow. I have never heard of this. I can’t imagine. This Colossians verse you shared is so good!

  3. A Beautiful Camouflaged Mess says

    April 15, 2016 at 11:01 pm

    I was first introduced to Immaculee through her book, “Our Lady of Kibeho.” In it, she introduces the Vatican approved apparitions that occurred in Rwanda. And, she also introduces her readers to Our Lady of Sorrows. Beautiful faith-based book, that focuses more on the apparitions and the message, than her personal story.

    That said, she is an amazingly beautiful (inside and out) woman! A true role model and inspiration!

    • Amy says

      April 16, 2016 at 7:23 pm

      I need to read more of her books. I loved Led By Faith!

  4. Brittany @ Everyday Thoughts says

    April 20, 2016 at 9:44 am

    I love that prayer but St. Francis! I agree with you that as Christians forgiveness and then loving after forgiveness is one of the most difficult tasks we face. Great post!!!

    • Amy says

      April 20, 2016 at 9:53 am

      Thank you Brittany!

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